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The Internet Sexualizes Your Young Daughter! Top 3 Ways to Help

By Bobbie BorrasJune 19, 2012

The Internet is contributing to the over-sexualization of our daughters. Dr. Albert Bandura, a leading psychologist states, “Most human behavior is learned observationally through modeling: from observing others one forms an idea of how new behaviors are performed, and on later occasions this coded information serves as a guide for action.”   Our girls are observing a lot online and not all of it is good.   They are young and there is a lot of peer pressure and a huge audience watching.  Get up to speed and learn about these risks and the new pressures they are facing.

Here are the Top 3 Things You Need To Know About the Internet’s Influence on Our Daughters:

1.  Realize that our kids are like wet cement.  With a web address and one click, our kids are seeing things that leave impressions that can stay for a lifetime.  Every day Facebook pages are inundated with young teenage girls posing sexually and making comments that would make a sailor blush!

2.  Know that we are letting our kids play in traffic. The information superhighway is loaded with billboard pages that scream, “Because sex sells, that’s what you have to advertise.”  On top of this, kids are giving a thumbs up “Like” to these sexual comments and pictures and nobody is watching! It’s so sad to see young girls attempting to behave in this manner, believing that the more sexual they behave the more “grown” they are. Little girls are no longer princesses in the eyes of society, now they have become pinups for people to “Like”… and that is sad and disturbing.

3.  Be mindful of what your kids’ eyes are seeing.  You can’t un-see something.  The eyes are often referred to as the windows to the soul.  Repeated viewing of sexual content on the Internet has the risk of corrupting our kids into thinking that this is “normal.” They then attempt to follow the norm and mimic that behavior.  Kids are posting and reposting what they have just learned.  The difference is, she is 12 years old and the guy who just “Liked” her post is someone else’s child or an adult.

As parents, we need to protect our kids from the psychological harm of oncoming mental traffic as much as we need to protect them from the bodily harm of oncoming physical traffic.  It just makes sense.

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AUTHOR OVERVIEW

Bobbie Borras is an Editor at Parentingtodayskids.com and is very passionate about protecting kids online. Bobbie refined her online safety expertise through her work at SpectorSoft, the leader in child online safety and monitoring. As a single mother, she understands the importance of paying attention to what children do online in order to protect them. Bobbie ensures that the Parentingtodayskids.com’s content is up to date, by spending lot of time each day tackling tough issues, related to kids and technology. The issues that you need to know as a parent. In addition, Bobbie has years of hands-on experience mentoring to teen girls through her involvement with Calvary Chapel Student Ministry Program. Bobbie is currently pursing a B.C.M. at Victory University.

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5 Responses

  1. Louwana says:

    This is so true. We are forcing our girls to grow up to soon. Innocence is lost and can not be regain. Worse, we are teaching them the wrong message. Why do young girls dress and try to “act sexy”? It is because as a society we encourage them. Check out clothes made for girls over size 6X…it is hard to find things that are not too grown up.

  2. Ellen says:

    Well said. I agree and am ready to battle this in my family. My little girl is too important to be wasted on what this world has to offer. Thanks for getting real and to the point in this area.

  3. Darren Laur says:

    Some call it the “pornification” of our youth. As parents, we need to stay vigilant about what our kids are seeing on TV and on-line. More importantly, we need to have open and honest discussions with our kids about this topic so that we can begin to allow them to develop “critical thinking” skill on this issue.

    Darren Laur

  4. Holly says:

    Thanks so much for writing this! The message must be heard loud and clear by the public:

    The information superhighway is loaded with billboard pages that scream, “Because sex sells, that’s what you have to advertise.”

    Great article!

  5. Kim says:

    Today’s girls are dealing with issues well beyond their age. We as moms have to recognize this and start the conversations earlier. They are being exposed to so much so early. Because your daughters are seeing questionable images and behavior on TV she may not actually understand that it is inappropriate. We can not let the media educate our children and we cannot blame. We are in control.

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